My personal swinging history

It's a peculiar thing, but the older one gets the more one thinks about the past. Perhaps it's a preparation for death or something?
Anyway, I've been thinking lately about the swinging lifestyle, how I got into it and my swinging career. I think my very first awareness of the lifestyle dates to the late 60's, when I was working in an office in London during the three months between finishing school and going to University - so I would have been 18. The office manager was a swinger, and he and his wife used to have parties at their house. I overheard him telling his closest friend in the office about the events of one particular Saturday night and I was gobsmacked! - I never thought that kind of thing went on! So that was how I became aware of the contact magazine scene - this was in the days before the internet, of course!
Contact mags were small booklets - about the size of a folded A4 sheet - called names like "Rendezvous". The idea was you wrote an advert - "Hunk wants to meet sexy lady, etc", and if any other reader was interested they wrote you a letter saying so, enclosing a stamped addressed envelope for your reply. Needless to say the ladies advertising must have received hundreds of such letters - and it usually turned out that they were "working girls". Buying stamps and envelopes and writing letters was a real chore every month! Funnily enough, though, I did meet a couple of nice ladies through this system - although the party scene eluded me.
I went to Northern Ireland to live, though, and sex in Ulster in the 70's was NOT ALLOWED - let alone swinging! I heard about the "car keys in a bowl" suburban parties that were meant to be going on in England but of course never got to one. There were rumours that in Belfast the presence of a packet of Omo washing powder in the kitchen window was an invitation placed by bored housewives - "Old Man Out" - but I never ever saw one - despite looking!
By the late 80's there was a Northern Ireland contact mag! - although it only had about five or six adverts in it! However, I did meet people from it so it was a start. By that time, however, my increased income meant could go on trips abroad - paris, Amsterdam, etc. - and that's where I discovered the swinging clubs - in particular, the Candy Club in Amsterdam. What a place - small, intimate, very friendly and full of dedicated swingers! I was just knocked out. I tried the Paris clubs as well, but the French in Paris don't like the English very much so that wasn't such a great experience - despite being very careful I was dreadfully ripped off one night to the tune of about £200 in a club that was actually full of working girls. The Candy Club was the place for me, though, and I went back a number of times.
And then came the internet!!! Younger readers will have no idea just how ground-breaking this was - just how quickly and how widely the opportunities opened out! I discovered Adult FriendFinder in about 2003 and started to use it to meet people - changing circumstances and mores in Belfast helped immensely in that.
And when I returned to England a couple of years ago it was an easy matter to track down the swingers' clubs in Manchester that I like to go to, after a false start going to a couple of crappy ones in Blackpool. And I found that there were women on Adult FriendFinder who wanted a taste of what goes on in the clubs and who were keen for me to escort them there - which brings us up to date!
Now I get to a club whenever I can and it's always good to take an enthusiastic woman. Sometimes I wish I were 35 years younger!
Comments welcome, as always - and if anyone wants to share their history, please feel free!

Support for new swingers

Question:
thought this might be a chance for people to share first experiences as a way to "teach/share" what to expect regarding before, during and after "the first time". :)



Answer:
Open mind
establish boundaries
respect your partners
strong bond with your own partners
avoid alcohol induced encounters
you will have first encounters that will leave you emphoric
you will have first encounters that will leave you befuddled
you will find couples that you will bond with in and out of the bedroom
you will find couples that only want to bond in the bedroom
If you go into a first meeting with certain expectations, you will often times be disappointed. Approach the first meetings with an open mind and let the chemistry take its course and you will have a memorable encounter

How to be a Swinger

I have to say if it wasn't for my true friends I don't think I could of gotten Thur the last year of my life and I Thank you all for being so wonderful to me and listening to me cry and losing my mind I attend ALOT of party's and felt so guilty for going to them even thou i did nothing wrong but always felt as if i was being judged for going to them because you know this is the largest sex and swingers site but the bottom line is It doesn't matter what others think of you its about how you feel about your self I enjoy the party's and meeting new people just because I go to them doesn't mean I am a swinger or in that life style it just means I have a life and enjoying it. I Enjoy meeting new people and just having fun .. I can be the life of the party or I can sit in the corner and look bummed and unhappy. well that time has come I am out of that corner forever because I am me and if you don't like or love me then your not worth my time.

Is internet Swinging harder then Meeting In person?

We pose this question based on our experiences in both the digital world as well as the analog world, if you will, of being an active swinging couple within the state of Wisconsin who is interested in meeting single women and couples. We have hosted several parties consisting of hundreds of people, attended many swinger events, and have met and played with many wonderful people at both on site and off sight swinger clubs. We are by no means shy and continue fun lasting relationships will most of the people we’ve met.

However, we have attempted to make the cross over from analog swinging, i.e. meeting people in person, to a more digital environment, i.e. swinging sites, and have been very unsuccessful. We have chatted, added people to networks, given phone numbers, emails addresses, and what not and still have not found successful matchs both sexually or mentally. We have found a host of people wanting pictures, wanting to be added to our network, or people wanting to be added to our messenger list. For what reason, we have still yet to discover, but we still press on to find that small niche of active swinging couples and women looking to actually meet and have fun.

So we pose the question…how many of you couples and/or single women out there find belonging to pay sites and internet swinger’s groups rewarding? Have many of you found the sexual and mental matches you have sought and have enjoyed days and or nights of pleasure and bliss or do many of you believe that the only thing to be found on pay sites and internet groups is a host of unfulfilled fantasies and many debits from your bank account?